I rang my usual hairdresser to book an appointment for next week. The receptionist proceeded to say “Kim is only available from 1-3pm on that day”. I was like omg how did she know who my hairdresser is? Did she recognise my voice? Maybe they don’t get too many Aussies coming in and so it’s very obvious when I call? So I asked her. She replied with something along the lines of: “Oh your number came up (on caller ID) and I looked it up on our system”. Ohhh… Well that would be a smarter way to recognise a customer! 🤣🤣
Well that was the most entertaining part of my day. The rest of my day was productive, though 👍 Although I think it was more because we decided not to go to dancing today (N is busy at work at the moment), so I got a few hours to work on some other stuff instead 😊 Plus we need a bit of a break from training, our bodies just need longer to recover now 😔 What is this getting older business?!??
I had this interesting thought today: what if I started a productivity blog? After starting this blog, I have discovered that I am always looking for ideas on how to be more productive, trying things out and tweaking things to better suit my life and my personality. Why don’t I share these experiences and findings with other people, and they can then share theirs with me, and we can learn from one another? Anyway, it was just a thought I had today. I might mull over it some more over the next few days, flesh out the idea and see if it’s something that I want to pursue. Especially given that I already have this blog – which I have committed to writing in on a daily basis – and all the other things that I am already currently doing, this would be yet another thing that I am adding into my life. So yes, this will require a bit more thought…. But productivity, happiness and self improvement are definitely things that I am constantly reading up on, so it would be a topic that I could write many posts on! 😂
Ironically, though, I didn’t feel very productive today! 😆 I did stick to my consistency theme, so I can pat myself on the back regarding that. Chinese, trading, dancing and home, all moved at least an inch forward today 👏 So I shouldn’t be so hard on myself! But sometimes the progress just seems so slowwww, y’know? Sighhh…
I actually didn’t feel like sticking with my consistency theme today and just going “f*k it, what’s one day”. But that’s the whole point: you do it regardless of how you’re feeling. Consistency each and every day. Here are a few quotes on this point to end this post – and the day – to provide some motivation:
“A little progress each day adds up to big results.” – Satya Nani
“Success isn’t owned; it’s leased. And rent is due every single day.” – JJ Watt
My mantra for the day was “errands” and I did a ton of them today. My mantra was so effective, actually, that any time I felt the urge to resist doing something, I would say my mantra, and that just made the decision for me and I just went and did it. It was as simple as that. I was so amazed as to how effective this was for me. I will definitely be using this little productivity tip more often!
However, I did take the day’s mantra up to a point where I ended up sacrificing my one-word theme for the year: consistency. So I just have to find that balance to make sure that I still remain true to my one-word theme and therefore take me closer to my longer-term goals, but also making sure I still get the other “life” stuff done. These are new productivity tricks for me, so I just have to accommodate them to make sure they work for me in the best way possible 😊
So as part of running my errands, I went to a few different stores today. And in one of them, I walked in and the sales assistant greets me with a “Hello K!”. I was like omg she remembers my name! How embarrassing! It’s nice when people do remember their customers’ names, and I do like it when they recognise me, don’t get me wrong, but I just find it so embarrassing for some reason! Probably because I’ve inadvertently drawn attention to myself, and I never like being in the spotlight, no matter how tiny that spotlight may be. And then the following thought crosses my mind: “omg I’ve come in here so often and ordered the exact same thing each time that they recognise me now as the ‘XYZ’ girl. How boring am I?!” 😂 I should just be happy that they recognise a loyal customer and not be so embarrassed or worried about it!
Nonetheless, it was a productive day, even though I fell off my consistency wagon 😊
I came across this phrase from the Happier podcast: “the days are long, but the years are short”. It’s just so true, and I think that I do forget this quite often.
N was cleaning out our closet in the study / spare bedroom, and stumbled across a shoebox filled with photos from around the early 2000s. So we spent a good half hour or so flicking through these, reminiscing about this period in our life. There were even photos from Sentosa (a few of which I have attached below), when the island looked way more industrial / kampong than it does now. This was before we got Kitty, and before I had even moved out of home. Therefore before Melbourne, before dancing, before mobile phones were prolific, and definitely way before moving to Singapore. Heck, these photos were taken 15-20 years ago. It’s really lovely to step back every once in a while like this and see where we once were in our life journey. And I’m glad there were also photos of our home and not just holiday photos, because as much as holiday shots can be great too, I think the ones capturing the day to day can sometimes be even more nostalgic than the holiday snaps.
The bridge into / out of Sentosa
I don’t even recognise where this is!
The area surrounding the monorail station looks nothing like this nowadays
I only recognise the Merion. Nothing else looks even vaguely familiar 😲
I was so tired today. After the dinner n dance last night, and then a really bad night’s sleep where I tossed and turned for about two hours in the middle of the night, I just wasn’t feeling all that refreshed when I woke up this morning. And it didn’t get any better 😔
But I tried to keep my mantra going nonetheless, which I chose to be “enjoy” today. We had 3.5 hours of dancing again today, and I knew that the only way I could possibly have any hope of getting through it was to remind myself of my mantra for the day. Our Latin lesson was good, really enjoyed that. But by the end of it, I was really struggling; and by the time we got to Ballroom, the balls of my feet were sore as, and I could barely walk, let alone have any energy to do anything more than get myself on and off the dancefloor hahaha Maybe not having much food to eat today didn’t help either 😳 I should work on that next week!
We decided to go watch another movie tonight: Downsizing. We went straight from dancing, so my energy was already pretty much spent by the time the evening rolled around. I was ready to fall asleep during parts of the movie. And because I was so tired, I can’t figure out whether I liked the movie or not! Am I rating it as mediocre because I was falling asleep in parts? But would I have thought the same regardless, if I wasn’t so tired? I don’t know… 🤔
So despite my mantra for the day, with my lack of energy for most of it, I don’t think I enjoyed it as much as I would have liked 😔
One of these things that I struggle with is being an “imposter”. I don’t quite know how to describe it, so I’ll just describe a typical situation and you can help me figure out a more appropriate word for it 😊
So last night we went to that dinner n dance. Because I had my mantra playing in my mind all day (“connect”), I was busily trying to “connect” with people. Plus because we were there as “the dancers”, so I felt like I was working in a way, and one of my duties for the evening was not just to dance but also to socialise and mingle with the guests.
Now I am a true introvert, and I know that I am not the type of person who draws energy from external stimulation. It actually drains me of energy. So when I am there chatting to people and generally being the one APPROACHING others for a dance and then having a quick chat afterwards, and I’m doing this for the entire evening, it starts to get very tiring very quickly.
So at the end of such events, I always feel like I was being ungenuine (is that a word?!) and that I wasn’t being my authentic self on the night, not showing a true reflection of who I really am as a person. But, having said that, I wasn’t saying things or behaving in a way that was out of sync with my values either, so in that respect, I wasn’t being ungenuine – hence my dilemma of trying to describe how I feel about such events. Maybe it’s just because I was behaving more like me on steroids that it just always feels really weird afterwards. Coz during the event / evening, I am actually enjoying myself, and it’s only when the event is over that I feel this remorse of sorts. It’s all very odd.
I wonder if anyone else feels this way… 🤔
So my chosen mantra for the day: connect. I thought this was an appropriate word for several reasons:
1) We had Chinese class this morning, and the whole point of learning a foreign language is to “connect” with people;
2) We caught up with a friend for coffee this afternoon, so just “connect”ing with him;
3) We were invited to a dinner and dance function tonight, so just “connect”ing with new people as well as a few friends from dancing who also went tonight 😊
My mantra also had another unintentional effect on my day: rather than thinking I have to trudge through class half asleep on a Saturday morning, by remembering my mantra for the day, I could reframe it by saying that “I am here to learn to communicate in Chinese in order to “connect” with other people”.
So I’m putting down day two of introducing a mantra to my day as an overwhelming success 😊 Now time to think of a mantra for tomorrow…